Motherhood So White: A Memoir of Race, Gender, and Parenting in America
by Nefertiti Austin
Expected publication: September 24th 2019
Review: Do not judge single black mother, Nefertiti Austin, by first appearances. She is a successful businesswoman able to upgrade cars every other year. She rose up from a childhood filled with changing homes of toxic parents and their drug abuse. Nefertiti has never been married and doesn’t rely on a man for income. She has children but has never given birth. When she decided she wanted to be a mother she pursued a nontraditional route and her journey is an inspiration.
This book gave me the baby blues! It made me reflect on the prejudices and recognize the hypocrisy within my community regarding the adoption of complete strangers. It was an epiphany to realize that the practice of raising relatives within the African American community is a form of adoption and relevant (informal or not). This book redefines motherhood for me and brings me to tears to realize that it is obtainable. This book sheds light on the nuances of systematic biases and racism in non-fiction parenthood literature, the school system, foster system propaganda, the realities of the adoption system and the struggles of single motherhood. While reading this book transformed from an entertaining pastime to a highlighted, post-it noted study manual. I could relate to the author on so many levels and for once I feel that I have found a book written for me! As I now seek to embark on Motherhood in the non-traditional sense of In Vitro Fertilization, egg freezing, surrogacy, or adoption this work of art shall be on my hip and in my purse.
I received an Advanced Reader Copy of this book in exchange of an honest review.